Evolutionary Psychology Explanation Why You Shouldn’t Get Married

Many times I said about people shouldn’t get married that women will backstab you and so on.

I don’t mean to say women are bad or anything. The problem is not the women, but the voters around you.

What does evolutionary psychology teach.

Let’s start with something not controversial.

1. What used to reproduce becomes common latter

This has 3 natural corollary

1. What used to reproduce in the past is what humans currently are
2. What is reproducing now will be common latter
3. What’s reproducing is what’s common

Now, number 3 is approximation.

So I will use deductive reasoning based on what most libertarians and ancaps agree. Then I will use empirical data. Basically we agree on the reasoning. We agree on what we observe. It’s just that leftist explanation of why is often wrong. I got better ones.

Here is something not controversial.

Humans and all other sexual animals like to have sex

Simple right. Those who have sex pass on genes. So they become money. What’s reproducing is common.

Do people like sex? All porn, make up, hentai, prostitution shows that humans like sex.

Do prostitutes and porn stars have lots of children? Not necessarily. See the approximation is just approximation. In ancient time we don’t have contraception and abortion. So whoever have sex usually have children. So what’s common now is people like sex. The approximation do not explain why many people have sex with contraception, for example. That’s because we are descendants of humans that did not have effective contraception. Sex used to work. So we now like sex.

Perhaps in the future, people with more children will be people that do surrogates or more consciously deliberately want to have children like Elon. Well. I sort of know. Do people like Elon have more children? Yes. So people will be more like Elon in the future. However, people like Elon is too few to tell. I can tell that there will be more muslims in Europe though. Why? The muslims have more children.

Any traits that are common now will be more in the future.

Now let’s start with something slightly more controversial.

Men wants sex with many women. Women are far less.

That’s obvious. A man that fuck 1000 women will have lots and lots of children. Women that fuck 1000 men will give birth to 1 child every 1.5 years. That’s assuming 9 months pregnancy and 15 months nursing.

Reproducing and having children is biologically cheap for men but extremely expensive for women.

So men are different than women. They have widely differing preferences. Gender that can reproduce by just squirting sperms, for example, will be more ambitious. They will risk life and limbs for power more.

That’s sound reasoning right?

Is this what’s we’re observing? Yes. Most rich people are men. Most powerful people are men. Commies will say this is due to patriarchy or whatever. But their theory is not even testable. It’s something Ayn Rand complain. Things that’s not even wrong. What the hell is patriarchy. Anything.

Most bank robbers and murderers are men too.

Men look for quantity. Women look for quality. This one is obvious. Men that fuck lots and lots of women have more children. Women have to get pregnant for 9 months. So they want to either pick the best genes or the best money or both.

Another observation?

Sexual marketplace do not “close” at price point 0. Because men wants sex with women far more than the other way around, at price point 0, there are far more demand of sex from women than “supply”. Natural economy says prices go up. So men tend to pay women and not the other way around.

What do we observe?

Most prostitutes are women and most johns are men.

Most sexual arrangements are men paying women for sex. Yes financially supporting a woman is paying her. It’s just word play. In most marriage, men are bread winners and women are leg spreaders and that’s it.

What else?

Sexual attraction is hierarchical. If you like a woman, chance is most men like her too. If a woman like you, chance is you are handsome and most women like you too.

So we’re not equal.

We have hierarchy. We aim for the best among those we can get cost effectively.

It’s not entirely true men aim for quantity. Most men do not want to have sex with ugly women. But we can expect top 1% men wouldn’t mind having sex with top 10% women. While top 10% women would aim for top 1%.

What it takes for top 1% vary from species to species. For human males, it’s usually power, money, money offer, look, and so on. For women it’s usually beauty and age or lack of it. Younger women are prettier. Women reach peak beauty at around 20 years I guess and then decline.

We also know we are all competitors.

And as competitors we want to get rid those who can attract more competitors.

So any arrangements where one guy got all the chicks or some chicks get all the money will be politically incorrect.

You name it. Polygamy is politically incorrect. Transactional sex is politically incorrect. If sex is transactional, rich men can hoard women by just offering money.

Porn is also politically incorrect. Many men would rather jerk off to JAV porn stars than marrying ugly women.

As for me, well, I won’t marry anyone.

And this is important.

Most voters in democracy do not want any men to fuck many pretty women. They also do not want pretty women to get rich guys.

In other words they do not want other people successful.

There is a strong conflict of interests between what humans typically want and what they want other humans get.

Humans have strong crab mentality when it comes to sex.

They want you to fail. Basically society is basically NAZI when it comes to sex. As much as possible they want to get rid more attractive competitors. Imagine jews in Israel vote for Nazi party as prime minister? That will be as stupid as you getting married.

Well. Not just sex actually.

Just go to school. Why everyone moves at the same speed? That’s even though the high IQ can learn faster? Because when controlled by government majority of voters want to slow down the smart. Once you are out of school, you are less regulated by commies. So higher IQ people that learn fast often simply make way more money.

Or what about DEI and so on? Yap. People want to discriminate against minorities with more money. That is why DEI hurt Chinese and Whites the most. Jews used to be discriminated too but now they are so smart they seem to find some way to swim around leftism instead of drowning in it.

What about income taxes and welfare? Yes. Many commies simply don’t want you to have big income. That is why they want to punish productivity with income taxes.

Leftist humans are bigots to people who are superior.

When I was young I am confused as fuck. Why we have laws against prostitution? The story most people say do not make sense at all.

They said prostitution is bad. Why not let the woman choose?

They said women are coerced by poverty. If that were true then prostitutes and porn starts are ugly. Turns out many are very beautiful. The idea is the more pretty the woman is the more men want to marry her. So obviously pretty women have choices. She can choose to marry some guy, and yet she choose to be prostitute.

Often I see a bunch of ugly women protest against porn while pretty women are the one in porn.

As libertarians, we know that humans are selfish. It doesn’t make sense to FORCE someone to benefit the forced person.

Sometimes it may work. Maybe we have railguards to force us from falling on cliff. But those are rare.

So the idea that prostitution and polygamy is prohibited to protect women that want to sell sex and to share a man is absurd.

And this one is not even my idea. Some evolutionary psychology have state this more explicitly

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/464439-far-from-being-laws-to-protect-women-antipolygamy-statutes-may

Anti polygamy laws are not there to protect women from having to share. Many women wouldn’t mind sharing rich men. In fact, most do. One way to attract women is to have other women and show you can get other women too. Many mistresses are well aware that the guy she has fling with already has a wife. Doesn’t stop her.

If sex is left to free market and commercialization is free and explicit, then top 50% of women would aim for top 10% the rest got scrap.

In “well functioning ancapnistan” if such thing is possible, then most ugly women will just be irrelevant in sexual market place like bad product in the market.

Rich men will get all the chicks and have far more children than the poor. Prettier women will just get richer smarter children by picking the rich.

For rich men, paying women is not a big deal. You always pay. That’s what money for. If rich men can just pay pretty women, then whatever ugly women want is irrelevant.

It’s like government educational officials when all schools are privatized. They will be irrelevant. If there is no public school, then all these debates of whether kids should learn to be trans instead of how to make money will be irrelevant. Any schools providing inferior cost ineffective education will have parents moving their kids somewhere else.

So what do ugly women do? They are envy to the pretty. So they want sex to be non transactional. And they justify this with 1000 bullshit.

Same with poor men. If sex is transactional, rich men will wipe floors. Poverty will be gone not because the poor will starve, but very few women would want to settle with the poor if they can get paid by the rich.

So when societies create norms, their main goal is the opposite of individual success.

Success for men means fucking and knocking up many women. Societies want to stop that.

Success for women means getting paid or financially supported by rich men and get good genes. Societies want to stop that.

Losers can vote. That’s how democracy works.

What voters want is not to protect your children, or you, or your baby mama or you baby daddy.

What voters want to protect is the competitors.

When a rich man has a harem, most men are not concerned that the women are emotionally satisfied or the kids will be well raised. People are not concerned about other people’s interests. People are concerned with their own interest. What they are concerned with is that it’s going to get a lot tougher for poor men to get laid if rich men get all the chicks.

The same way when one women are in porn, feminists would complain that such women are “exploited” have no choice, and so on and so on. The truth is, they are concerned that they will be irrelevant. If men can just watch beautiful women naked or can just pay to fuck them, then why would they settle for the ugly?

So what happened in marriage?

Outside marriage, there aren’t many things government can do. Freedom of association and all. Well, recently more and more things are done by government. We’ll get back to that.

But within marriage, government can do a lot. You agree to get married. Government decides what the marital rules is.

Think about alimony for example. Would you agree to pay alimony if you have to agree to that explicitly? In ancapnistan, will there be alimony? No. Complex rules with no benefit.

Or what about if your wife fuck other guys. Would you ever agree explicitly to support someone elses’ children?

No. The trick is government want your money to

1. Motivate women to leave you
2. Make you support everyone else’s children but yours
3. Minimize women’s incentive to choose you.

Governments literally want you to fail. Do you want to fail? Then have less government in your life. Don’t get married.

The martial rules are designed for the goal that is the exact opposite of your success. Often under the pretext of protecting children and so on.

Imagine if you are a rich man. You don’t take it with you when you die. So of course you want your money to go to your children. You want to increase your chance that your children will be rich as possible.

Most of the time we don’t need government to force rich father to support their children. Most rich father love to help their children get rich. Unfortunately things like inheritance tax are in the way.

But if you get your goal, if your children are rich, then the other children will have to compete with your smart rich son.

So?

So when a rich man wants to help his children rich, in ways that really help the children, society will be in the way. Inheritance tax is a sample.

But under the pretext of supporting children, society will make sex and having children extremely expensive for rich men. The money should provide MINIMUM benefit for the child. Look at child support laws.

Why would any rich father pays $300k a month child support? What does the child have spending $300k a month to “maintain lifestyle”? It’ll make more sense to just give the money to the child when he is 18 right?

But that’s the kind of deal government want to have.

And it’s very difficult to avoid that.

So? Just don’t get married then.

Here is the catch.

Deep down most people realize that.

Rich men know they can get prettier girls by just offering money. Pretty women know they can get more reliable money by making deals with rich men more than by marrying someone poorer.

So what does government do?

Government enforce marriage rules OUTSIDE marriage.

In Australia, we have palimony. So if you just have a girlfriend for 3 years, then she deserves something equivalent with alimony.

Then there is civil marriage. You never agreed to get married but government declare you’re married anyway.

Child support contract is not enforceable by court. So if you and a woman wants to have a child, you cannot agree on terms like how much child support would be. The law decides that and the law decides that in ways that is so absurd to prevent what’s win win with you and the woman.

Here is a summary.

Let’s compare sugar relationship in well functioning ancapnistan and marriage. Sugar relationship in your country is actually more similar to sugar relationship in ancapnistan. Most of which are far from government regulations anyway. Ask lawyers.

If you and your women make your own deals, then yes rich men would spend more money. But those money usually go to

1. Provide incentives for women to stay and choose you
2. Make the children rich.
3. Money will go to your own children. Which men would agree to support someone else’s children if it’s explicitly agreed? Very few.
4. Yes means yes. No means no. Usually there is no misunderstanding. If a woman doesn’t want you, then fine, you move on find another. There will be clear contract. Just like you don’t rent a car and suddenly become a thief because the renter suddenly withdraw consent. You don’t become a rapist when a woman suddenly without clear cause claim they withdraw consent. A contract can stipulate that once the woman withdraw consent she needs to tell that and leave.
5. If you spend a lot of money, women have incentive to stay with you. Also the more money you spend, the prettier and smarter the women you get. Basically, a woman’s pay will be proportional to her beauty instead of your wealth. How wealthy you are is mostly irrelevant. It’s like buying a car. The price of the car is the same whether you’re a billionaire or just a millionaire. The price of the car depends on the quality of the car.

If government make the deals what’s usually happen is

1. YOUR money will be used to give incentives for women to backstab you. Alimony gives incentives for women to leave husband.
2. Benefit for your children will be minimal. Kanye can be forced to pay $300k a month and his baby mama can just buy a yacht or even donate the money instead of sharing a cent to his own children.
3. Money can go to someone else’s children. Your wife can fuck someone else and you’re on the hook.
4. Consent will be so ambiguous. Rich guy like Mike Tyson go to jail for rape. False rape accusation is not a bug it’s a feature. That makes sex more costly for rich men. Danny Masterson go to jail for life for fucking his own girlfriend that leaves with him one more time. Donald Trump is forced to pay $100 million more for sex that doesn’t even happen at all. Merely in the same elevator with a woman can cost you $100 million more if you’re rich.
5. The money you spend will be proportional to your income or wealth. Societies want sex to be expensive for rich men.

Conclusion:

Don’t get married

In democracy, they want you to fail. Poor people want rich men exterminated. For the same reason ugly women want pretty women exterminated. People want superior competitors exterminated.

That also explains DEI, holocaust, and so on. You can observe that most pogroms happen to minorities group that have higher IQ average and make more money.

Anyway. Once again.

Don’t get married. EVER

Stay away from government regulation as far as you can practically do. Unless you can swim well in it.

For the same reason, avoid normal banking, use crypto and so on. Live off the grid as much as you can.